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WELCOME! I am a parent of estranged adult children, a survivor and a warrior. My husband and I put up with serial estrangement - this on-again, off-again bullshit for almost 38 years - so long, in fact we didn't know which end was up. Our ED and ES are both in their 50’s. Our youngest daughter passed away 5 years ago. Our ED's daughter is 23. She is very bright but, learning at the knee of her mother, she is as indifferent to us as our daughter is. She has learned well. Our grandson is about 10 now, and since our son stopped talking to us 5 years ago without any explanation, we haven't seen our GS in 5 years - we don’t know him at all. Several years ago, we got tired of being endlessly jerked around by our ED yet again, I wrote her a letter which outlined the nearly 4 decades of mistreatment and hurt that she and her brother had visited upon us. In it, I told her we no longer could deal with the way things were and so things would have to change. She replied – asking us not to contact her again. This was just fine with us as we just couldn't deal with the duplicitous and highly superficial nature of our relationship with her. Dumping all of them - and all the drama that went with them, was a total relief. Life is so just much better without all the anxiety and pain. They say insanity is repeating the same action over and over expecting a different outcome. So we figure that we just saved ourselves a LOT of time, money and heartache when we walked away.. We are now concentrating on those who would love us. We finally started to give some thought about we want our lives to be – how we needed to save ourselves AND our sanity. And so now, we are starting to live them the way WE want to.